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Have you ever doubted your self-worth?

Have you ever questioned yourself ‘Am I worthy?’

Have you ever seen yourself down and wondered how to help yourself when no one can really help?

Have you ever been hurt by someone you trust the most , your whole world got crushed and since then you wonder what is your identity?

Have you ever acknowledged that you need help by changing inside of you first but don’t know where or what to start?

If you ever have had any questions above, welcome to my blog today about self-affirmations.

I used to know who I was until the life event happened in my 37 year old. It crashed the whole world inside of me. I was shattered. I was in darkness. I felt worthless. I felt helpless. I felt abandoned. I was in the bottom of the valley. I was totally collapsed. I was deeply hurt… All because I was betrayed. I started to realize who I was in this world. Why was I here for? Was I worthy? Why the person I trusted the most hurt me the most? My whole world turned upside down. I felt like I was buried alive and the person who I trusted and loved the most was shoveling the dirt onto me and laughing at me. I felt “You deserve this hole.” I started to blame myself a lot until I know it was not my fault alone. I have done all my true best, with no regret. Something else so valuable I have learned from this life trauma and it continues to make me whole and new again.

I didn’t realized I was made for a purpose in this life. I did not know about my true worth. I got help from some closed friends around me, from the community, and even pastors from church but I could not get a grab of what could truly change me until I read the book “You can heal your life” by Louise Hay. The author mentioned that everyone has been hurt in this life, however there is a modality to help you heal and to recognize that others also are hurt. Ironically, hurt people hurt people. Also because people don’t know they are hurt and they need to be healed, so they carry that hurt and pass it on to next generation. So this is not new at all. Hurt is passed from generation to generation. Only does it start with yourself, you then can heal yourself first, and then to know what to help other people.

Let’s start with positive affirmation about yourself. There are many aspects about where or what to say to affirm about yourself. In this blog, I just wanted to touch on the angle of self-awareness about your value as a person, and you are on the righteous side but got hurt deeply. You may think it is strange and foreign to self lift yourself. We are norm to think it must be coming from other people. That is called validation. That is the normal thought. And that thought needs transformed as well. You can validate yourself. Totally. No body is too far from good. It’s hard to recognize that you are good until you are gentle to yourself.

Have you ever been told that you are hard to yourself? If so, listen to that voice once again. Doing this is not to beat you down further but to be curious why you are told so. Once you tap into yourself, you then can start to examine yourself and see where you are hard to yourself. I personally have high expectations for myself, and subsequently I put that high expectations to other people around me. By this alone, I was hurting myself and other people around me unconsciously. I got disappointed how people could not meet my expectations but did not realize no one was perfect, including me. It took a while for me to self aware about this. However, I learned that everybody is perfectly imperfect. Do good is enough, and perfect is the enemy of good. It makes you drive yourself beyond the real limit. It makes you exhaust. It tells you that are not enough. With daily exercise telling good to yourself, it is the way to love yourself and to help you heal.

You can start slow, just to say these simple sentences to yourself. Look into the mirror and tell yourself:

Last but not least, once you are comfortable about self positive affirmation, you can add more to what true to yourself. And remember, what you say to yourself is what you will become.

I truly hope your healing is starting today, with love and hope.

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